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How to Establish a Morning Routine for Your Family

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How to establish morning routines

How to Beat the Morning Rush: A Guide for Parents

Guest post from Bright Horizons

Why do mornings seem so difficult? For parents, especially working parents, there is typically so much to do in a short period of time. “Morning is the time in which temperamental differences may be most evident – the child who is slow to get going clashes with the mother or father who is fast paced. Or the child who is crabby clashes with the parent who is also crabby,” say authors Ellen Galinsky and Judy David, in their book The Preschool Years: Family Strategies That Work – from Experts and Parents. Mornings also provide the perfect opportunity for children to assert their individuality. With the clock ticking for work and meetings, this is prime time for power struggles.

Getting ready for school or child care doesn’t have to be a struggle. The Canadian Child Care Federation offers these tips for waking up and starting a morning routine:

  • Unhurried Moments. Make sure everybody has enough sleep and rises early enough to avoid rushing. Give yourselves time for some unhurried moments together before you have to leave the house.
  • Night Before Chores. To make the morning routine less stressful, do things the night before. After dinner, for example, prepare lunch boxes and leave them in the fridge overnight. And after you clear away the dinner things, set the breakfast table for the next morning. Ask family members to bath/shower/wash hair the night before, if possible. Gather permission forms, lunch money, or notebooks. Encourage your children to help with chores that are suitable for them.
  • Offer Encouragement. If a small child is prone to dawdling, you may have to offer frequent gentle reminders. When you are busy in the kitchen and the child’s room is on another level, have her dress nearby where you can supervise while you work.
  • Give Yourself More Time. Add 10 or 15 extra minutes to your usual schedule. If the child is ready on time, spend it reading, talking, or doing some other activity together, making sure you give him your undivided attention during this period.
  • Set Reasonable Expectations. Expect your children to do what they are capable of, for example washing and dressing themselves if they are old enough. This may be an unreasonable expectation for a younger child. Set one task at a time to make expectations seem more attainable.
  • Have a Family Meeting. When children are old enough to join in a family discussion, sit down together, perhaps the night before, to go over your morning routine and discuss the best ways to get ready for school.
  • Getting Out the Door. If a child has not been cooperative, use the extra 10-15 minutes to get him ready with as little fuss as possible. Do not scold or chat; just do what is necessary to leave on time.
  • Spend Time Together. Promise and follow through to spend time together if the morning routine goes smoothly. Don’t forget to recognize your children’s good effort using encouragement on days when everything works well and your family starts the day on time!

Dealing with Resistance to a Morning Routine

Children may resist morning routines by arguing about breakfast food, debating about what clothes to wear, or playing when they should be getting ready to leave. Children often seek our attention in the morning, especially when we are rushing.

Our children soon learn that when they resist, argue, or stall, they get our attention. These morning difficulties may arise even when we give our children plenty of attention at other times. What can you do to spur on the uncooperative child and give him a sense of power and control?

  • Encourage and remind, but try not to nag. Let them experience the consequences of procrastinating. This may mean missing breakfast or forgetting their homework.
  • Establish an agreement that the TV doesn’t go on in the morning until the chores are done, if at all.
  • Create a morning routine chart with your child, and involve your child by asking “what’s next on the routine chart?” They can help cut out pictures and design the chart. Have stickers for your child to place on the steps she completes.
  • Use an alarm clock in children’s rooms. This will ensure that you wake them up at the same time each morning and you haven’t gotten lost looking over your emails. This will prepare them for elementary school as well.
  • Ask children whether they would like your help getting ready for school.
  • Avoid lectures. Instead, asking “what” and “how”; questions such as “what happens when you don’t get dressed in the morning?” and “How do you feel about missing the school bus?” will entice conversation with our children. These questions help children think for themselves, whereas our lectures may make them stop listening.
  • Talk about times when you have procrastinated, what happened as a result, and how you felt about it. These moments can be used as teachable moments for your kids.
  • Plan ahead, and give your child enough time to succeed on his own. Remember to give reminders and establish clear expectations regarding your routine.
  • Let your child know that you need their help and say, “I would appreciate you getting dressed so we can get to school before circle time.” This invites cooperation instead of defiance.

Many of us are always charging off with our to-do lists in hand, thinking that when everything is done (which it never is) we can enjoy life. But what we do every day is life, and our ability to step in time with our children amid the everyday stuff, such as getting out of the house in the morning, takes some organization and a lot of patience. But somehow, some way, we usually get it done.

At Childcare at Legacy managed by Bright Horizons, we recognize how important beginnings are in each child’s development, and to each family. We provide a safe, nurturing and engaging environment where your child can learn and develop to their full potential. Explore our website to learn more! Be a fan of Bright Horizons on Facebook

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