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Discipline That Works

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Types of Discipline

Types of Discipline for Your Child

Guest post by Kids ‘R’ Kids of Dallas/Fort Worth

The most frequently ask question among parents is, “When do I start disciplining?” and “How should I discipline?” Childcare experts wish there was an easy explanation to give desperate parents, but that’s just not the case. The answer is both simple and complex. Childcare professionals recommend you start disciplining a child as soon as he’s capable of understanding what you are doing, that way he can learn why you are doing it. Experts say this occurs usually around 18 months, although some children may be closer to 2 years of age before discipline can become effective.

Two types of effective discipline

The first type of discipline requires changing your child’s behavior that is undesirable. First you must make sure that the behavior you are wishing to correct isn’t just part of the normal developmental range of behaviors. An example would be if your child ran into a busy street. There can be serious consequences to running into a busy road, so this kind of behavior has to be curbed. But if he is bouncing up and down waiting for his favorite treat, this should be considered normal behavior that does not deserve a negative reaction.

Professionals endorse that when a child is behaving improperly, parents and childcare providers should use redirection, not time out. Redirecting your child’s interests in another activity is an effective technique that works to correct their behavior toward a new activity. Sometimes giving the child a choice of two new activities is very effective as well. It’s good to plan these activities ahead of time so you have an arsenal of ideas ready when your child’s behavior needs redirecting.

Inadequacies of “Time-out” or “Reflection”

Your child’s brain has not developed enough to fully understand the idea of “time-out” or “reflection”. “Time-out” only gives the parent a break from the behavior and it teaches the child nothing long term.

Goal Oriented Discipline

The second type of discipline is more difficult to teach. It must be taught at home, in school, and with childcare services. It involves training your child to direct and manage his behavior toward reaching a specific goal. That goal might involve mastering a skill, sports, arts, or a craft.  Achieving any one of these goals requires the act of discipline. A talented child may not have the discipline to train for the thing he wishes. On the other hand, a less talented child may achieve a desired goal because he has mastered how to discipline himself. Self-discipline becomes even more important when a child becomes a young adult. The disciplined teenager is the one who can get good grades in school and can successfully resist the attractions of drugs, skipping school, and other forms of juvenile delinquency.

Teaching the Second Form of Discipline

The earlier you begin correcting dangerous or unwanted behaviors the better. When you child gives up on a task, encourage him to keep at it. This motivation will instill discipline in your child’s life. Everyone who’s a part of raising your child should adhere to this philosophy as well. Show your child that practice and hard work pay off with increased rewards.

These rewards need to be very tangible at first, such as praise, a sticker or stamp on a board. As time goes by, the satisfaction of “doing well” will be its own reward. Don’t forget to use both types of discipline that were mentioned above. And most important all members of your childcare team must apply each form of discipline consistently. The first type of discipline keeps your child out of trouble while the second teaches him how to live successfully. Both are equally important and require your active involvement as a parent.

Kids ‘R’ Kids believes that happy, loved, connected children are destined for success in every facet of their lives. Our most cherished principle, “Hug First, Then Teach,” defines every aspect of who we are at Kids ‘R’ Kids. When it comes to teaching, Kids ‘R’ Kids understands the importance of involving families with their child’s developmental milestones and accomplishments. We hope you will drop by for a tour at one of our 12 locations in the Dallas/Fort Worth area. You will find a list of our locations on www.dfwkidsrkids.com.

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