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Moms Need a ‘Mommy Time Out’

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Moms Can Run on Empty Too - Frazzled Mom

‘Mommy Time Out’ – Moms Can Run on Empty Too

by Diana Guintu, M.Ed.

“In my house the laundry always piles up” she sighed.  She was tired and overwhelmed. There wasn’t enough time in the day to finish all that she “had” to do.” This juggling act between motherhood and womanhood had reached a breaking point. She was losing it!

As “Supermoms” we can all relate to having days where we feel stressed, irritable, and overwhelmed.  It feels like someone has pressed the ‘slow motion’ button on your day.  It just doesn’t seem to go by fast enough. You know what I’m talking about, right?  I’m talking about those days when bedtime can’t come soon enough; when the much adored “Mommy, Mommy” is like nails on a chalk board; or when the smallest request to do something minor can send you over the edge.  Yes, those days – when anything and everything our children do is simply too much to handle.

I know that for some “Supermoms”, admitting this can be painful and shameful. No mom wants to admit that there are days when the role of a mom is the last role you want to take.  Now, I’m not talking about not wanting to be a mom. I’m referring to those days when we feel like we just don’t have anything left to give; running on empty, if you will.

I realize that we don’t always have days where we feel like we are losing it but when we have them, they can really create a dent in our character. It’s so easy for us to start self diagnosing ourselves with disorders and personality defects instead of just taking a deep breath and chalking it up to part of the process of motherhood. The dents we create internally really affect our perception of ourselves. It can also leave us feeling inadequate as mothers and women. We have to be mindful of what we tell ourselves. We can’t go around thinking and feeling inadequate, damaged and broken just because we can’t seem to keep up with our laundry. Most of us don’t realize how much power our thoughts and feelings about OURSELVES affect the flow of our day.

I am a firm believer that if we can be honest about those days we can find solutions to dealing with them. After all, those days are part of our journey as mothers. They are completely normal. If we didn’t have the not-so-good days, how could we really appreciate the good ones?

Those kinds of days warrant a ‘Mommy Time Out’.  That’s right.  You read correctly.  Don’t worry.  You don’t have to sit in a room or in a corner pouting and thinking about what you did wrong until someone comes to get you.  ‘Mommy Time Out’ is actually the time that you take for yourself; away from being a mom.  Of course, I’d like to think that we all have the luxury to escape to a spa or a girls retreat, but the reality is, for most “Supermoms”, finding the time for self-care can be a chore in itself.  Try to remember that the next time you find yourself having one of those days – feeling irritable, frustrated, and overwhelmed.  Your internal guidance system is trying to grab your attention.  It’s trying to say – “Hey! You need a break! “.  The next time you’re out of the proverbial gas and only running on fumes where anything and everything seems to get on your nerves . . . take a ‘mommy time out”. After all, the laundry is never done anyways.

Diana Guintu, M.Ed., is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Allen TX. She specializes in working with moms and women. For more information visit her website at www.guintucounseling.com.

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