Are you Inadvertently Shaming Your Toddler?

Are you inadvertently shaming your toddler?

Allowing Your Toddler to Make Mistakes Without Feeling Shame

If you’ve ever spoken about your child in front of other adults as if they weren’t there or insisted your child share a favorite toy with another child, there’s a good chance you are.

As parents, we shame our children out of love, concern and, yes, power:  by trying to assert who we think that child should be and how we think he should fit in the world, we inadvertently make our young children feel ashamed when they are at their most vulnerable.  Most of us don’t even realize when we’re inflicting shame, that horrible feeling of embarrassment and self-hatred.

Forgive Yourself; You are a Great Parent

Forgive yourself; you are a great parent

Learn to Forgive Yourself

by Amy Egan

As a parenting coach I often notice that when a parent or couple first meet with me, they have such guilt that things are less than perfect in their homes.  The fact that they yell, are angry with their children, or can’t figure out how to make things more peaceful – makes them feel like failures.  I have empathy for them because I can relate.  For many of us, being a great parent is the most important thing in our lives. Therefore, when we feel frustrated with parenting it is easy to get down on ourselves for not getting it right.